The key to process improvement is to clearly communicate process definitions (the way in which the company wants the processes to be carried out) to the people in charge of their execution (through training, process descriptions publication, etc...). The better process participants understand the process definition, the higher the probability that the process is carried out according to it. They are better implemented through obtaining buy_in than through imposing directives.
Understanding applied psychology is the most important aspect of your magic power to persuade and command people, for you really do have a magic power if you will merely understand how it works! What is the applied psychology here? It is that the last thing you want to do is to appear to be desperate! This will inevitably communicate itself to your ex. You will call too much. You will desperately seek them out. You may show up in the same places you know they frequent. Bad move!,